“There are two lasting bequests we can give our children: One is roots, the other is wings.” ~Hodding Carter
This is one of my favorite bodysuits right now! The message just really resonates with me. As I mentioned in my bio blog post, I did not have the healthiest of parents. The carry-over from my childhood to adulthood is deep wounds and scars and low self-esteem. I could spend many blog posts detailing them all, and maybe over time I will. I honestly don’t know what I’m comfortable sharing in the long run, but for today I can focus on why this quote means so much to me.
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I grew up in an abusive home. Much of my adulthood was spent running from my past. I wanted to be nothing like my parents. I tried in every way to be the exact opposite of everything they are. Basically, I wanted to erase all traces of them. Yet every time I look in the mirror, I see my dad’s eyes, his smile. I hear his voice when I express my anger. I see my mother when I respond irrationally. It almost seems like the more I tried running from them, the more I became them. I could not erase those roots, no matter how much I wanted to.
One day it hit me. I don’t have to erase those roots AND I don’t have to become exact replicas of my parents, either. I can hold on to those things that are endearing about my family, and I can work to overcome those not so endearing habits. My dad is one of the hardest workers I know. He is funny and charming. And I am very much just like him in those ways. I can honor and be proud of those parts of my personality, while trying to grow into a better and kinder human being. I can have roots and wings!
‘Til next time,